This year we celebrated our 40th wedding anniversary and used the opportunity to look back over our lives. We married young, and with the intention of enjoying our senior years more fully, planned for children early on in our marriage. Within the space of the next ten years, we brought forth three beautiful children.
Over the years our grown children and now many grandchildren have brought us years of delight, and immense enjoyment along the way. Of course there have been problems and moments of frustration as there are in any relationship, but sometimes in life you need to experience the darkness before you can enjoy the sunlight.
As we were thinking back over the years, we recalled our many celebrations shared together. On one wedding anniversary while our children were older but still living at home, we spent the day in and around the beautiful Barossa Valley, north of Adelaide in beautiful South Australia where we live. We left the then teenage children at home, put both mobile phones away in the car, and spent much of the day sitting on the grassy bank of the river, relaxing and taking time out together. Following a nice picnic lunch we shared a small box of chocolates and a chilled bottle of South Aussie Moscato wine.
As we nibbled on the chocolates and sipped the wine, we quite naturally relaxed into each other’s arms and spoke of many memories. We ended of thanking each other for the wonderful years we had enjoyed together, and those simple compliments seemed to go hand-in-hand with the time we had spent together, the picnic, chocolates and wine.
The reason for sharing this here is to show the number of ways in which we can all enjoy compliments from other, and give them to those around us. In fact marriage is one of those areas where we should always be seeking to build each other up. Unfortunately in many relationships, criticism and arguments are seen as ‘normal’ far too much between partners. Imagine the difference it would make to your relationship, if you determined to compliment your partner for just one thing he or she did each day!
Desmond Tutu had it right when he said “You don’t choose your family. They are God’s gift to you, as you are to them.”
The good news is that you can make a difference to your marriage or relationship this very day. If you make a decision to be generous with your time, kind with your words, and loving in your actions, you can turn a bad relationship into a better one in a very short space of time. Of course it takes two people to make a relationship work, but it only takes one person to start the process. And if you need to seek professional assistance to save your relationship please seek out appropriate help.
Will YOU make the effort this week to improve your relationship?
Living each adventure,
Christine and Trevor
Empowering people to live a healthy, active, authentic and fulfilling life.
Adelaide, South Australia.
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