Being a new mom was one of the toughest gigs in my life!
So believe me when I say, it took a LONG time to figure out that I didn’t need to be some kind of 24 hour a day supermom, trying to be all things to all people. But this was a journey which took place over many years.
Ever since starting this lifestyle blog, we feel like in many ways we are showing others how to live a more enjoyable and authentic life, by reflecting upon our own mistakes and the learnings we have discovered for ourselves over the years.
In fact when we wrote ‘What Are YOU Doing This Year To Stay Healthy?’, we knew we were talking to ourselves as much as to our friends and followers, about living the lifestyle you want by making the right choices each day.
However when we were young and our children first came into our lives, the whole parenting thing was a huge learning curve.
We have mentioned before that despite reading all the parenting books in the land, it is not until you get that beautiful little bundle of joy screaming at you for no apparent reason and keeping you awake night after night, that parenting actually hits home.
You suddenly learn parenting skills on the fly as you begin to understand all there is to know about wind, food allergies, nappy rash, diarrhea, teething, sleeping positions, bathing and sickness.
Your entire world is turned upside down as more little ones are born into the household and need to be fed, dressed, nurtured, and disciplined.
Not only do you now have lots of little ones to care for, but the laundry still needs doing, the house needs cleaning, the shopping needs to be done, not to mentioned dinner, your partner, and any chance at any romance!
And somewhere along the way, through all this hive of activity, you sort of try to work out where you fit into all of this. You want to be there for everyone, but there is just so much to do. And there are just not enough hours in the day to do it all and be there for everyone who needs you.
Keep it up for too long and the stress can increase to breaking point!
If you have been through this, or if you are going through it now, you know that it can’t last for long.
Either you realise that you are human after all, and you stop being so tough on yourself and your kids, or you keep trying to be a supermom and go on pretending that it is okay to try and do everything that comes your way with a smile on your face.
If you want a life that is far more enjoyable, and far less stressful, you will ditch the supermom cape, start to see parenting through new eyes, and accept a new reality.
Being just a mom is enough!
Your kids need you to be honest and genuine. They want you to be there for them and with them. And they hope you will love them enough to guide them through their young journey of life as you walk hand in hand together.
If that means you leave the laundry for now to spend time playing ball with your kids, that’s okay. And if that requires you to go a bit easier on the kids and allow them to learn through their own mistakes, that’s fine too.
Being a mom now is one of the best times of my life, and being a nan as well just adds icing to the cake.
I have finally realised that I should have ditched the supermom cape many years ago, and just enjoyed my kids for who they were. My life should have been built around doing mom things and recognising where my priorities lay.
I could have left the bed unmade and put off the cleaning for another day. We could have watched TV together and talked a lot more.
I could have stopped forcing them to sit at the table and eat Brussel Sprouts – which even I don’t like! We could have enjoyed the occasional cake and candy together.
And I should have put away the idea that I needed to be the perfect mom, and just been content to BE mom.
So for all you moms out there, struggling to work out who you are, please learn from me and take this big hint. Celebrate being a mom. Every day.
Realise that in just a few years your kids will be all grown up and will leave home to make their own life. So don’t waste these few years you have together.
Don’t try to be the perfect supermom. Just be a mom and love your kids every single day.
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